I recently read an article in the New York Times that was wildly popular in 2016 called “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” The author, philosopher and author Alain de Botton, recently spoke with host Krista Tippett on her NPR radio program, On Being. While de Botton has many interesting things to say, I must state that I don’t agree with him.
My problem with the article is that it takes a sociological, reasonable, practical approach to finding one's partner, which is not necessarily wrong. It is, however, totally different from my belief that true love is beyond reason. Finding one's bashert — in my estimation — is a mystical pursuit. The phrase "magical realism" is an apt description and strikes a deep, familiar, romantic chord with me.
For the past five years, while writing this novel every day, I didn't think much about how lovers come together. Over the past three weeks, I've talked about it daily, sometimes twice and even thrice, with interviewers all over the country and what I am discovering is that I believe more in the cosmic design I wrote about, than ever.